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Currently in the middle of a sleep regression and it’s just torture (love my little guy!). I feel like both options available, suck
1. Rock him to sleep every 90 minutes
2. Let him cry it out
Desperately looking for a better way to
Nice. What about toddlers?
I've 2.
The younger one is on the level in low functioning and has problems of sleeping. He's 2.5 years old. He always fell asleep after 22:00 at night.
It's exhausting.
You know who loves the Ferber Method? Demons.
My husband and I implemented all the recommended techniques to develop our son’s circadian rhythm since day one and adjusted the strategies appropriately as he grew. He started sleeping through the night at two months of age without crying or huge dramas. I am unsure if our child was naturally inclined to be a good sleeper or if this is only thanks to the implementation of experts’ advice. I think it might be a combination of the two factors, but long story short, I believe that good sleep can be achieved in early stages if techniques are properly and consistently ♥️ you have nothing to lose in trying!
Anyone else scrolling the comments for where she talks more about this?? Please help
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I think it all depends on the kid, not only on the 'parenting'. Like, my kid is 3 months now and she was okay with sleeping in her bed most of the time. Not including vaccination aftermath or growth sprouts days, though. But my friend's kid is 5 and still sleeps in the same bed with them. They used the baby bed maybe 20 times max. My friend is very strict and disciplined, and I am 'go with the nature' type. So, logically, our babies behaviors should be switched, hehe.
OK so are you gonna share how or just say it is possible lol
Ferber method I've found to be effective while not being traumatic for mom or baby.
Let's talk more about this
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I sat and sang my baby sisters to sleep every night until they were 8 and 6 years old and they didn't need to me anymore. It only took me 15-20 minutes a night and they were so peaceful and comfortable. We are still ridiculously close even now that they are grown up.
Even after keeping the same sleeping routine (dark room, white noise) for a year, my twins still don’t sleep through the night. Some babies are just different. I haven’t sleep trained (Ferber or CIO). We co sleep and do shifts to survive. Maybe another year to go until they sleep good.
I didn’t sleep through the night untill I was ATLEAST 8! Jeez I feel so bad for my parents it might’ve been longer too
Too many parents are feeling pressured about a child sleeping. One of mine slept well within weeks. Another didn't sleep through the night until she was 12 and I mean years not months. All babies are different, none come with a manual and your relationship with the baby is more important than a routine. Relax and you'll figure out what works for you, your baby and your family. 2 or more of you bawling, baby feeling abandoned and mother feeling guilty 😮 what is that going to do for any of you?
I'm 12 and I sleep from around 7:00am to 10:00am. Yea I never learned it
IT IS NOT UNSAFE TO SLEEP WITH UR BABY
That is a flat out lie!
Mommas, get some sleep with ur babes
I had twins at 1 in 2000. Their pediatrician told me to let them cry it out and to get some headphones or earplugs if I had to. I look back at that now and it's crazy to me.
I raised three kids, one was a preemie born 4 months early, meaning he was an “infant “ a lot longer than most babies. Crying it out is so stupid. There are better ways and it stresses the parents and babies out. I didn’t have all this trauma with my kids, even though I was tired
Cry it out worked for me. With our pediatricians blessing, he said I needed to retrain the timing of his digestive system since most of our son’s eating was mostly at night, and not during the day. for the sake of my sanity, I didn’t want to be mombie while caring for my son during the day. 🤦♀️ it was the hardest thing I ever had to do, but so necessary. Thank God it took one night and since then he’s been a wonderful sleeper. Even naps. He’s 6 years old now & still a great sleeper.
My mum tried to get me to self soothe but I was too stubborn. I would cry for hours. I've always had trouble getting to sleep even now. Fortunately for my parents I always slept like a rock when I did manage to fall asleep. Definitely gonna vacuum when my kids sleep so they don't wake up easily either.
I read The No Cry Sleep Solution and it shaped how we handled sleep with our son. He had very little issues with sleep because we set him up for success but also knew that there would be nights where he would need us and that’s ok.
Cry it out is awful; I think it stems from the idea that the alternative is attending to them as soon as they stir, which is also not good for parent or baby, they are active, noisy sleepers and most of the time you are waking them unnecessarily.
With my 1 month old, if he starts grunting and squirming I watch him and wait, even if his eyes open, 8/10 he will wriggle for a bit, go still and his eyes will close again.
I've learned he has a very particular sound when he actually needs me. When that happens I take him for a nappy change, let him feed on me for as long as he wants (or until he drifts off) and put him back in the crib. Again he has a bit of a grunty wriggle and falls asleep.
If he doesn't and he's not interested in going back on the boob, I know he just wants comforting, and I think here is the mistake with cry it out; the advice would be to put him in his crib and let him scream himself to sleep. Instead I lay him on me and rock him to sleep before I put him back in the crib for safety. It usually takes less than 5 minutes vs 15+ of crying and not only does it tell him that he is safe and loved with his mother, but his brain is repeatedly learning how to shift from distress to calm and that will help with emotional regulation in the future.
Honestly, I never have figured out how to reliably sleep through the night.
What actually works for me is going to sleep at sunrise. I sleep like a log for 8 hours then. But at night? No.
I can only imagine what my parents went through when I was a baby.
With our (very easy) baby, a friend told us to try letting Dad comfort the baby when he wakes up at night, so he wouldn't smell milk and get hungry. He had already slept 8 hours once or twice at that point. After a couple nights of dad comforting him, he stopped waking up in the middle of the night. He still wakes up occasionally, but he only cries for a minute or two and just goes back to sleep on his own. Not saying this will work for everyone, but it's something to try if you haven't yet. 🤷♀️
How about instead of putting yourself out on social media—reaching out to your friends and family. And going to your doctor when you can and not having kids when you’re not ready. I seriously don’t know how YouTube puts some of these in my algorithm. But there has to be an “only fans” crying mom fetish out there! 😂
Stay safe and hand the kids off to your husband next time. You do got this. That’s why you had kids right? Right?
Very interested in learning any sleep training tips that don't involve crying it out! Expecting my first in a couple months and have been reading "The No Cry Sleep Solution for Newborns," so any tips are appreciated!
I rocked my son to sleep until he no longer wanted to be rocked. He sleeps great now. He'll lay in his bed until he falls asleep, if he wants someone to stay with him he'll cry. We'll stay until he's calm or asleep.
My grandparents slept with the babies in bed with them. People in Thailand and other cultures. It’s not unusual for the whole family to be asleep in the same bed. It all seems to work out one way or the other.
CIO is not such a big deal in my opinon when done at the right age. It was one night of pain for everybody and then my son was sleeping comfortably through the night. If you think this is bad, don't start daycare. That really broke my heart and felt a lot more traumatic as the crying at drop off lasted weeks.
I’d only be able to do the cry out method because I’m not patient for human kids. Hence knowing I shouldn’t have them.
Sleep training is no joke, every baby is different and patience and compassion are the key in my experience (for both mom and baby it’s a learning experience)
We supported my daughter however she needed it for 16 months straight until she finally figured out how to sleep independently. You just figure it out. We split the nights and practiced safe bed sharing. I told myself this will end one day and it’ll all be worth it and I was right! She has now been falling asleep on her own and sleeping 11 hours through the night for 2 months. She just wasn’t ready until then! We still respond to her if she wakes up calling for us. The days are long but the years are so short. Our babies need us to feel safe and supported in this world!!!
What works here (mom of two) baby in the same room at least the first year, exclusively breastfeeding, swaddle if the baby likes it, calm them when they cry without carrying them so they learn to fall asleep in the bed.
I'm 35 and I don't even sleep through the night 😅
I believe studies have concluded that just leaving your baby there crying is neglectful and will harm them emotionally later in life
My daughter started sleeping through the night after 5 weeks. We had her in her own room from the start, as my husband worked almost 7 days a week so I could stay home. Put a dimmer switch in, and have the rocking chair in there. I would not speak to her, just changed her and breast fed and put her back to bed with music. Had a friend who thought she had to entertain her child in the middle of the night 🙄 their children slept with them for years
Co sleeping has been a normal practice in many cultures for centuries only modern conveniences (over sizes pillows and fluffy bedding ) have made it unsafe for careless or drugged parents . Biologically newborns need to wake for feedings for the first couple of months. Sleeping through the night is only a milestone for tired new parents. We coslept with our 3 and the ones who slept less were the kids in the gifted programs and the one who slept through at 5 weeks still needs more sleep as an adult. Establish a gentle bedtime routine and focus more on the needs of the child than the latest expert's sleep training methods.
"The 'crying it out' methode was very popular in Nazi Germany. It should make the kids thougher and less emotional.
I reaaaally don't like it. It just makes your baby less trusting you
better to let the baby sleep nearby. So the baby feels safe and you sleep too.
if you’re all for the “cry it out” method, look at the studies on the affect on babies who are forced to “cry it out”. crying it out isn’t always just putting them to bed and letting them scream all night. this “method” and its variations have terribly negative affects on the child’s developing mind and body. even if it’s “working” and the baby isn’t crying as much, it is too much stress internally for the child at that point in development. harmful stress. you cannot attempt to “teach” a newborn independence because they aren’t physically able to comprehend abstract concepts at that age. it’s simply cruel and outdated, and most of all, it’s lazy. parents need their sleep and we’ve fortunately studied much better ways to raise our children while also properly caring for ourselves. sticking to old ways bc “that’s the way it’s always been” is lazy and only encourages our society to stay stuck and raise less efficiently successful people
Can we say "parent shaming" instead of "mom shaming"?
Dads are just as important in raising a child and helping them feel safe to sleep. Lets normalize including dads in these conversations.
I completely ignored the pediatrician on sleep, my son weaned himself from breastfeeding around 2 when I got pregnant with our second and started sleeping through the night on his own. They will sleep through the night when they are ready, we should NOT be forcing them to. As parents we have to make sacrifices and our sleep is one of those.
And every kid is different! Im not a mom, no interest in having kids of my own, but i do loce kids and childhood development is fascinating to me!
I was an "easy baby", i slept all the time and had no trouble learning to sleep thru the night
My brother was the opposite. What i learned is that crying it out doesnt mean ignoring. It means letting them cry for a bit to see if they self soothe…if they don't, intervene. My mom would tell me "no, not yet. Five more minutes, if hes not calm then you can go grab him for me."
Babies have no words and its okay to coddle them, they will be okay!!
Crying it out is usually only beneficial when you're at a breaking point, others bond and make em feel safe. Cant have everything perfect. But just come from love and breathe shits gonna be fine yall
What i did as a first time mom was just 5 minutes for my baby to try to get to sleep and if that didnt work i would go and comfort him and het him calm and then try again for 5 minutes. My boy is 9 momths old now and sleeps great! Every once in a while he will have a rough night but who doesnt? When that happens we just got comfort him until hes ready to get back to sleep and its not a problem. You can find your own way to parent.
It really depends on the child. Sleeping alone and “self soothing” as a small baby is not developmentally normal